Love is not hard.

 Anyone who I have loved in the past I still hold love for. It’s not the same love but it’s definitely love. Love can be described in many different ways. You can love someone with your whole heart and care for them but not be in love with them. It doesn’t mean you love them any less it’s just a very different love. I’ve been in love very few times. There were relationships in where I thought I was in love and in hindsight realized that it was anything but that. Still didn’t change the fact that I love them. Love is easy. I don’t like the term “love is hard” because love is not hard. Love is the easy part. It’s everything else that’s gets in the way, like ego, pride, anger and hurt. Every long term relationship requires you to meet the person half way. It requires you to put your pride aside and it requires communication but it doesn’t require you to put yourself aside while putting all of their needs and wants ahead of your own. Loyalty should not mean you are a slave to the relationship. Yes you do help your partner through the hard times but you should not enable someone to be fully dependable on your love and the relationship. You are not required to give all of your pieces to fill them up. Love is gentle and kind, it’s screaming at the top of your lungs because you are angry but never spiteful. Love is the feeling of perfect. It’s the feeling of forever lingering on your lips after you kiss. It’s laughter and tears. It’s talking under the midnight sky looking at the moon while you both tell each other all of your wants and fears. Love is me. Love is you.